Watercooler Romance: Should You Date Someone at Your Workplace?
By Carly [Vigorous Sex & Relationships]
When you spend about 40 hours a week at your job, isn’t it natural that you become close to the people you work with?
If you already have limited time to meet people, dating someone you already know from your office can be tempting. Flirting becomes even more thrilling at the office. Instead of viewing work as a chore, you might start to think of it as a chance to talk to her. However, that doesn’t mean your workplace romance is without its downsides. Consider the pros and cons of heating things up at the watercooler.
“Who doesn’t like the thrill of flirting with someone in the break room or sneaking glances over the cubicle walls?”
Advantages to Workplace Romance
Although “efficiency” probably isn’t the first thing you think of when you consider romance, dating someone at your workplace is just plain efficient. If your office is filled with hotties, why waste your time combing through the bar scene or dating websites? Plus, since you spend so many work hours together, you already know each other. You know what she’s like, and you already have a friendship (or at least acquaintanceship). Since you work in the same field, you likely have some of the same interests or similar personalities. Developing the relationship is always fun too. Who doesn’t like the thrill of flirting with someone in the break room or sneaking glances over the cubicle walls?
Disadvantages to Workplace Romance
Even the best workplace relationships can run into trouble at the office. Everyone needs some time to themselves to pursue their own hobbies and interests, but dating someone you already work with means that you’ll be together nearly all of the time. Arguments can escalate quickly when you both have to work near each other and can’t have a few minutes apart to calm down. Things can be especially tricky if one of you works above the other. Would you be able to coach your girlfriend on what she’s doing wrong at work? When office relationships don’t work out, things often get awkward and ugly. Even though the two of you are no longer dating, you’ll still have to work with each other until someone leaves the job.
“…you should take precautionary steps to help your romance stay relatively drama-free.”
What to Keep in Mind
Before you pursue an office romance, consider whether or not it’s even allowed at your workplace. Some offices have policies that you cannot date a coworker. Even if you are allowed, you might have to sign paperwork that says that your relationship won’t affect your work. If other coworkers know about the relationship, you might be accused of favoritism at the office. If you love your job and plan on staying there for several more years, be very careful with office relationships, as they could make your workplace into an awkward environment or even get you fired.
Workplace flings can be fun, and they often turn into successful, happy relationships. However, weigh the advantages and disadvantages, carefully thinking about what you have to lose and gain in your own work situation. Your relationship certainly isn’t doomed just because it started in an office, but you should take precautionary steps to help your romance stay relatively drama-free. VIGOROUS
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