THE DATING ISSUE
Will Your Relationship Last Long Distance? 3 Important Questions…
Long distance relation-ships can be the make or break moment for even the strongest of couples.
Perhaps your long-term partner is about to move away or you’re just considering dating someone who lives in another city – either way, it’s important that you take some time to consider whether you can make it work long distance.
There are many factors that affect long distance relationships but there are three crucial things that indicate whether or not your relationship will last long distance.
#1 Do You Trust One Another Completely?
The most important factor in a long distance relationship is trust. This involves a combination of your characteristics – how easily you believe in another person – and your partner’s – whether they have proven to be an honest person in the past.
“YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO COMPLETELY TRUST IN THE OTHER PERSON AND THEIR FAITHFULNESS…”
If you often find yourself worrying that your partner is eyeing up another person at the bar, or whether they’re really out with their friends, then it will be difficult for you to rest easy when you are far apart. You have to be able to completely trust in the other person and their faithfulness to you for a long distance relationship to thrive.
#2 Are You Equally Invested?
In other words, are you and your partner both fully committed to making the relationship work? It’s easy to feel resentful in a long distance relationship if you are always the one arranging times to Skype, making the effort to plan visits, or sending the good morning message first.
It’s important to have an honest conversation about how much you both want the relationship to continue before you embark on long distance. Not every relationship is meant to be and it is better to accept this before you or your partner get hurt by a lack of interest when you’re far apart.
#3 Do You Have An End Point?
There is a huge difference between a period of long distance that you know will come to an end – say, your partner is studying abroad for a year and then they’ll be back – and an unknown length of time. Even if you don’t have an end point to hold onto, if you have regular visits planned then you can use those to get you through.
However, it can put strain on a relationship to constantly be living from one month to the next with no idea of when you’ll be together next or when you’ll finally be living in the same place. It is much easier to manage long distance when you can cross days off on the calendar so consider this before you take the leap.
“IF YOU DO NOT KNOW THE ANSWER TO THESE THREE QUESTIONS, THEN MAYBE IT’S TIME TO REEVALUATE.”
Your relationship can become forever stronger by going through long distance. It stops you relying on the physical aspects of a relationship, gives you real time to talk, and lets you evaluate how much you want to be with the other person.
If you know the answer to these three questions then you can get a good idea of whether it’s worth trying long distance and if not, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate. VIGOROUS